Comicpalooza Houston 2012: Stargate Panel Part 1

28 05 2012

I am not a professional videographer, and do not own high-tech equipment. However, I hope you enjoy this. I was not able to videotape the entire panel, but I do have a transcript of the entire panel forthcoming. That takes a little more time, so please enjoy what I can share with you!  I also apologize for the laughing.  It is hard to not laugh.  And about the camera movement.  I kept freaking out that the camera battery was about to go out and the only way to recharge it is in a computer with a USB port, which I did not have.   I kept pulling it up to make sure it was recording. It did die abruptly.  Lesson for next time:  Bring the table-top tripod. 








Celebrity Corner: Comicpalooza Houston 2012

27 05 2012

By Hilda Clark Bowen

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Expecting 15,000 people this weekend, Comicpalooza’s mission “is to provide the best and biggest annual multi-format pop culture convention in the southwest region of the United States, serving not only the fans of comics, science fiction, fantasy, video and table top gaming, anime, music and film, but also as a trade show and showcase for the studios, publishers, and manufacturers in those industries.” Now in its fourth year, it is still showing some growing pains. People were complaining about the length of the line just to buy tickets to get in. Some were complaining of the disorganization of lines for people with prepaid tickets versus those waiting to get in versus those with VIP passes. While some truth may be in those statements, coming this far in 4 short years is phenomenal. The community needs to continue to support this group by attending and by providing them with some constructive feedback.

Last year I found out quite unexpectedly that Houston had its own convention. Here I was spending money to go out of town when I could support a wonderful event in my own backyard. On my Twitter feed, some in the Houston, Texas area did not know it was going on this weekend. It’s not too late. There is one more day. Let’s spread the word for next year. Memorial Day weekend seems to be the date, much like Dragon*Con is over the Labor Day weekend.

This was my second convention. Last year I attended Women of Sci-Fi in Plano, Texas. When I saw how empty the convention center was (because I lucked out and got in the right line at the right time), I immediately went to work on my new collection of pictures. I got the most important things done first. I wanted to tell the people who affected my life in some way over the years how much I appreciated them. Why the urgency? I did this because my 16-year-old son, Patrick, who is severely affected with autism and other disabilities, was having an enormous amount of difficulty lately. Being nonverbal, he is really unable to share with us what is wrong–like if he has a headache, stomachache, etc. The last 3 days have been rough. His communication comes out in the form of behavior and not the good kind. I was unsure if our respite care worker was going to be calling for us to come home, or worse yet, that he had a seizure, which might also account for his behavior of late.

And you wonder how a cute kid like that can go from Gizmo to Stripe in a matter of 30 minutes? The pretty lady on the left was his teacher this past year (she actually stayed an extra year to work with him–isn’t that sweet?)

First stop was to Christopher Judge. Stargate has had a profound impact on my life. I was a bitter Farscape fan, pissed off that the SciFi Channel (now Syfy) cancelled Farscape to take Stargate from Showtime. Thinking that my boycotting the channel would make any difference whatsoever, my narcissism prevented me from discovering a terrific show for years. Yes, years. When my 500+ satellite channel offering one evening revealed NOTHING ELSE to be on, I started turning it to this show for “background noise” while I was working. I don’t remember which story it was, but I remember one show caught my attention, and slowly melted the bitterness in my heart. I caught up on all the episodes pretty quickly.  On March 25, 2009, I joined Twitter because Stargate Universe was in production and Joe Mallozzi said on his blog that David Blue was there. I wanted to be able to hear all the details about the new show, so I joined. The rest is history. I have made more than 165 Stargate-fan connections, have met some of these people, and some of them have become a tremendous support system for my personal life.

Christopher Judge

Turning the corner, Rachel Luttrell from Stargate Atlantis was not there yet, but Richard Hatch was. I became a fan of his at the tender age of 7 or 8. We were living in Hillside, New Jersey at the time and my sisters and I would come home from elementary school for lunch (you know, back in the OLD days). “All My Children” happened to be on. There were no DVRs let alone VCRs so if you weren’t live-viewing, you missed it. My sisters needed to use my body as an antenna to get better reception because the rabbit ears with the rotary dial weren’t working all too well. They were cruel to me like that. Yes, I cried when they said Philip Brent died in Vietnam, making the war as real as it possibly could to a child that age.  I grieved with Tara Martin grieving for Philip.  Flash forward to 1979 when the original Battlestar Galactica became one of the most ambitious shows of that time with these amazing visual effects that rivaled Star Wars (Episode IV). I had split crushes on both Apollo and Starbuck, Apollo the hero figure, Starbuck the beginning of my attraction to bad boys. My foster father would often threaten me that I would not be allowed to watch it unless I did XYZ. That’s behavior modification at its finest–immediate compliance. However, he thought that was quite funny, so the list of XYZ things I had to accomplish in order to watch the show bordered on the absurd. The editor in me noticed that Comicpalooza misspelled “Galactica” as “Galatica” on his sign and he made me laugh as he tried to climb the chair to fix the mistake. No one was more thrilled when he signed on to the reimagined Battlestar Galactica as Tom Zarek, a character with so many dimensions. It was thrilling to see the evolution of his career from Philip Brent to Tom Zarek.

Hilda Bowen (a.k.a. PBMom) and Richard Hatch

Another iconic figure for me has been Claudia Christian, whose portrayal of Commander Susan Ivanova on Babylon 5 secured a place in annals of role models for women in science fiction. My sister turned me onto the show. Seasons 2-4 were my favorites. I sobbed during the Shiva scene; I felt my heart break when Marcus died (Oops! Spoiler alert.)  Chills went up my spine when she said, “Who am I? I am Susan Ivanova, Commander. Daughter of Andre and Sophie Ivanova. I am the right hand of vengeance and the boot that is going to kick your sorry ass all the way back to Earth, sweetheart! I am death incarnate, and the last living thing that you will ever see. God sent me.” I thought of this dialogue every time I battled the school district to get my son the services he needed. As we chatted, I learned new things about her, totally oblivious to the line that was forming behind me. She has a CD out “Once Upon A Time” which I bought. Her new book, Babylon Confidential is expected out November 6, 2012, a biography of her life which I am eager to read. Click on that link to preorder your copy now. There are free excerpts available and more will be emailed to you per the instructions on that page. I find it ironic that she discovered “The Sinclair Method” that helped her overcome her addictions (and maybe I’m watching Touch on Fox a bit too much looking for connections).

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Claudia Christian of Babylon 5 with her new book coming out November 6, 2012 called “Babylon Confidential.” About a journey in her own life. Links are in the body of the report.

I backtracked to Rachel Luttrell who was looking lovely and was pregnant (which I did not even notice until the panel later in the day). Here was yet another woman who was able to be a powerful female lead without becoming too Ripley-like. We talked about her trip to Berlin and discussed why she is not on Twitter more!  Ivon Bartok’s Captain Starship was discussed.  It was such a pleasure to meet her, and obvious what I said above about Stargate applies to her as well and all the connections I have made. Conscious of the line forming behind me, I took her picture and then left.

Rachell Lutrell

Another picture of Rachel in the Raw

Last stop was to Michael Biehn and Jennifer Blanc-Biehn who are here to promote The Victim, a new psychological thriller coming this fall. Read more about it at the link and follow their links on Twitter.  

Finally we were off to meet my Twitter friend @etee and his family.  We are known to each other from having pithy Tweet-Ups about American Idol and other shows.  He is as funny face-to-face as he is on Twitter.  Although social media is the norm these days, face-to-face interaction is still required to make those connections complete.  His face will remain mysterious since he did not one taken of him (at least he thinks there wasn’t).  Snicker, snicker.  I would not do that to him.  I always get permission.  He will be blogging for Tubular TV soon.

Throughout the day, people passed by that had some wonderful outfits. Here are some of my favorites:

The best way to look “In cognito” would be to look like Johnny Deep in a costume. Maybe Johnny does that all the time. He is a dead ringer for him. Dead Ringer? Will that be the name of the Pirates 5 movie? Pirates of the Caribbean:  Dead Ringer.  I call Trademark.

Only in a Fringe Alt Star Wars universe where the world has gone mad and Elmo giggled too much.

The first panel was Babylon 5 with Claudia Christian and Julie Caitlin Brown (Na’Toth). Without any introductions from Comicpalooza staff, they jumped into things. When they discovered that the audience would have difficulty asking questions, Claudia handed her microphone over to the volunteer for people to come up and ask. (Note to Comicpalooza: Have microphone stands with a microphone in the middle of the row for people coming up to ask questions next year). Their panel was supremely entertaining. Having only been to two conventions in my lifetime, I had not heard the story of the psychofan who actually shot Claudia during one convention (and she didn’t press charges!). I have their panel on video and will put it up on YouTube soon, as soon as I chop it down into smaller segments. Caitlin Brown shared how she got the role of Na’Toth.

Claudia Christian and Julie Caitlin Brown of Babylon 5

My husband and I decided to head over to Hilton Americas to have lunch at The Cafe. At mid-meal we looked up and Claudia and Caitlin were coming to eat. I waved as they passed our table. After hearing that story, I was thinking in the back of my head–okay, not stalking–we were here first. We finished our meal and departed, stopping at the bathrooms on the way. I guess when I came out of the bathroom Claudia had already come in, but I was outside the men’s room waiting for Jeff. When she came out, still having the stalker story fresh in my head, and made sure to comment that husbands complain about their wives that take so long in the bathroom. The story about the psychofan was terrifying. I admire her bravery because if I had been in her shoes, I likely would never attend a convention again. People do not understand the concept of boundaries.

We saw some more great outfits. I took more pictures, but I think my camera had a malfunction.

Lizzie and Jennifer

James and Magi

Maicie Rawlings. Love her hair color, costume, ink and smile.

The Stargate panel with Rachel Luttrell and Christopher Judge was at 3 p.m. but a line had already formed long before to get in. While sitting in the 2nd row, I noticed a young lady with a uniform on in the front row and asked her if that was an authentic Stargate uniform. Nope. It was the real deal. Her name was Nathalie (last name withheld for her safety) and she was recently commissioned into the Air Force. I hope she felt like a rock star at that moment because I was deeply humbled by her. With Memorial Day weekend upon us, and although I know it is a day we are supposed to remember the service men and women who died to protect us and serve us, I think we should never forget those who are putting themselves in harm’s way now and in the future. The awe I felt and the gratitude–I don’t even remember the fumbling babble that came out of my mouth. I wanted to put my arms around her and give her a hug (because I’m a hugger), but I did not want to freak her out. Claudia’s psychofan story reminded me of boundaries. God Bless You, Nathalie (if you are reading this).

The real deal. Newly commissioned Air Force. Thank you Nathalie for serving. I will keep you in my heart and prayers, always.

The line had become long for questions. There is a great love for Stargate here in Houston.

Once again there was an issue with the microphone in the audience. This time the staff came up with a third microphone and people were able to line up to ask questions. My question was, “I’m a regular on Joe Mallozzi’s blog, and he talks a LOT about all of you. This is your chance. Do you have any secrets you want to out about HIM?” And boy did they let off some steam (just joking). If you follow his blog, and you should, then everything they said about him you already know. Rachel treated us to some of talented vocals.

Lighting here not good; Chris & Rachel’s panel

It was ice cream time. While standing in line, a man and his son walked up behind us and while it seemed 99% apparent to me that his son had autism, I mouthed the words to him so as not to embarrass his son if that were not the case. We started talking about autism and Patrick and our experience and his family’s experience. An hour flew by quickly. As if he left, I told him that some things in life were not coincidence and I think we were meant to meet. I gave him my email address and I hope I’ll hear from him. I really need to stop watching Touch on Fox (doubtful).

It was about 5:15 and time for us to head home after a long day. Comicpalooza is still here tomorrow, Sunday, May 27 including Lasertag with the stars for charity and sword training with Nick Gillard of Star Wars (extra fee).

Thanks for doing all this, Comicpalooza.  See you next year.  Written transcripts will be posted soon as well partial video of the panels.  I thank you for stopping by and enjoying the details.  Before next year, I WILL have size 6 or 6-1/2 combat boots to wear with my Stargate Universe uniform.

Cover Art of program: 

The back cover of the program book.

The creative page of the program booklet. I was impressed with this.





Local Gala Supporting Area Children with Autism A Success

28 04 2012

By Hilda Clark Bowen

With 2008 figures recently released by the Centers for Disease Control that autism is occurring now in 1 out of 88 children, and with April being Autism Awareness Month, the 6th Annual Boots and Bling Gala on Saturday, April 14, 2012, spread the message that “we are all in this together.” Hosted by The Woodlands Resort and Conference Center and generously sponsored by Altus and ZT Wealth, Including Kids, Inc., a 501(c) 3 organization, was able to raise approximately $160,000, all of which will go towards supporting Houston-area children with autism and other developmental disabilities realize their full potential through their full-time intensive one-on-one program, multiple inclusion programs, after-school tutoring, free community outreach and developmental programs, free parent training, sibling support groups and so much more.

There was something for every one of the 300 attendees. The classrooms created baskets for silent auction to compete for a paid lunch off campus. Fun games qualified winners for a variety of prizes. Busy bid boards hosted a large array of varied packages.

Busy bid boards

The live auction items included unique trips and dinners, but it was a video message from actor Mario Lopez (click here to see his video to our guests inviting gala attendees to be generous in their bidding to spend a fun day with him during taping of the show “Extra” that met with not only loud enthusiasm, but also a very high bid. State Representative Dan Huberty offered dinner at The Veranda for another high bidder. Pat and Ray’s Studio provided pictures of the children in their boots and bling.

Teacher Courtney Simon and student Patrick Bowen, courtesy of Pat and Ray's Studio

Including Kids could not be successful without the support of its generous sponsors and donors. Emcee for the evening was the wonderful Dean Ryan of Insperity. In attendance were ZT Wealth’s Kraig Killough and his wife, Mary, who brought along Houston Texans Chester Pitts and LaToya Hutchins. Also in attendance were Innovative Solutions, Clint Fowler, and his wife Jamie, Insperity’s Corrin Price and her husband Joe, Clint and Christle Johnson, Mark and Allison Elliott and Including Kids board members. All showed their altruistic support of Including Kids through sponsorships, auction purchases and donations. Enthusiastic volunteers from Best Buy extended a helping hand to ensure everyone had a good time.

(L to R) Clint & Kathy Fowler, Kraig Killough, Jennifer Dantzler, Sounia Sememar

The Woodlands residents: Jean Paul & Wendy Buisine, and Michelle & Gordon Dobson (also Board members of Including Kids)

As Jennifer Dantzler, BCBA, M.S.Ed., Executive Director of Including Kids, addressed the crowd, things turned quite emotional. She thanked not only the people who support the school, but also the parents who entrust their children to her and her staff. A slide-show of accomplishments of the children followed. Guest speaker, Dr. Heather Harnett, shared their family’s journey into the world of autism. Because of Including Kids, her daughter has graduated and is now attending regular kindergarten where she is about to perform a solo singing part in a play. By the end of her speech, there was not a dry eye left in the audience.

Dr. Heather Harnett, keynote speaker

“For every child, time is of the essence,” according to Jennifer Dantzler. “We know the earlier the intervention, the more favorable the outcome. However, we have also seen amazing strides from children as old as 14 years of age who had no previous intensive intervention. We encourage you to check out our website at http://www.includingkids.org to learn more about our programs.”

About Including Kids, Inc.

The mission of Including Kids, Inc. is to provide educational and therapeutic instruction using the principles of Applied Behavior Analysis for children with autism and other related disorders endeavoring to facilitate their inclusion in the community and inspire them to become productive citizens.

Additional Photos

The Woodlands businessman, Mike Norat, and his wife, Glicel

The Woodlands residents Jeffrey & Hilda Bowen

Best Buy volunteers helped make the night fun.





Immortality and Legacy

14 01 2012

Immortality on this earth would be something I would gladly choose if I could stay the way I looked at 25 years old forever with the wisdom of who I am now. It would be sad to see family and loved ones die, but despite my incredibly dysfunctional first half of my life, it’s been a blast. There was so much more I want to do. So many careers that take many years to learn. So many arts to master. So many places to visit. So many people to meet.

Me around age 27

Hilda at age 25

Knowing this was unrealistic in at least my lifetime, I had the next best plan. I was on my way in my youth to becoming the first Air Force woman combat fighter jet pilot, who was also a medical doctor, who then applied to the space program and became the first woman astronaut who flew the Mars mission or lived on the moon base. Then I would work in third-world countries where I would spend the rest of my years eradicating the diseases of the world, of body, mind and spirit, where in my spare time I would learn about people’s religions and cultures as I moved from village to village all over the world. I had no desire to get married. The children of the world I would informally adopt. I had a strategic plan to achieve all that. I wanted to find a way to eliminate poverty, to free the world of prejudice and hate. I wanted to be a blazing comet that set the world on fire, a world that would remember me for leaving it a better place before I departed. But as a teenager with a strict plan, you don’t plan on curveballs.

Hilda at age 25

In 2011, I had an unusual number of friends pass away. In October, after one of them passed away, I became more acutely aware of the need to be more proactive in some of my friendships I had neglected. Although we were in contact by email, phone and Facebook, my friend, Diane, had become unable to drive. Since 2009, I have wanted to drive over to Channelview to meet her for lunch, but my health was not good and I found myself too busy fighting with school districts to take what seemed like a very long drive (I thought it was closer to Beaumont for some reason) to see her. I knew the holidays were coming. I barely had time to schedule a kidney biopsy in the month of December before the year ran out. I promised her that after the holiday madness was over, we would pull out the calendar and figure out which weekend she was on call and which weekend I was on call and get make a date for the one of the other two weekends (we both worked for the same company, her since 1993, but I had known her since at least 1989 or 1990).

She celebrated her birthday on Thursday, January 5. Although I knew that she loved Hoops & Yo-yo from Hallmark, I wanted to surprise her with something else and got her a Darth Vader card. Then it occurred to me that I did not know if she had even WATCHED the Star Wars movies. Having confirmed she saw the first one that was all she needed to know to understand the card. Thursday night I became unwell. Saturday an email awaited me. I was in bed until Monday afternoon. At 3:20 p.m., I scanned through my emails upon which time I saw the email that let me know my friend, Diane had died on Saturday.

Diane was a star in the sky. She lived in this area all of her life. She had a huge family. She was many things to many people–mentor, educator, teacher, sister, daughter, aunt, great aunt, and friend. She talked about her nieces and nephews and then great nieces and nephews with such love and pride. There were so many of them, it was so hard to keep them straight. I knew Diane before I got married to my husband. She was there when I got married, when I got pregnant and miscarried, when I got pregnant and had Patrick, when Patrick was diagnosed with autism, my journey with that. She was my ear, a person I vented to, my cheerleader, Patrick’s cheerleader. Once she got on Facebook, I talked to her more than my own sisters. In the past 2 years with Patrick at his new private school and the huge progress he was making, she “liked” every comment, and on some left “woo-hoo’s” and some beautiful notes that would make my heart either swell with pride or my eyes swell with tears of joy.

Brandy & Diane

She had a fierce sense of humor. As diabetes kept claiming more parts of her slowly, there came a point where a toe had to be amputated. She made jokes about it. She said, “Asked the podiatrist to trim my toenails but also asked him if he’d give me a discount since I now have only 9 toes. Actually he didn’t charge me anything as I’m still considered seeing him for surgical followup. Anyway, thanks for thinking of me and for the beautiful plant and for just being you.”

She knew, too, that my birthday is on St. Patrick’s Day. However, on February 17th, 2010 I received a birthday card (I think it was an e-card). I emailed her at 1:12 p.m. and said, “Thanks for the birthday card. The words I need to remember because in 20 minutes I’ll be at Patrick’s school. Just one teeny, tiny thing. It’s not until March 17. St. Patrick’s Day. But I will take it as a divine-inspired intervention that I need to be polite to these people today, don’t necessarily have to cave-in, but they aren’t to blame for the director being a bully. They are going to unfortunately be her victim as well if no one can get control of his individual. Think good thoughts. My stomach is in knots. I feel like I want to puke. I imagine I’ll be shaking uncontrollably by the time I come home.” At 1:34 p.m., an email arrived that said, “After I sent it, I realized it wasn’t St. Patrick’s Day yet! Maybe I just needed to tell you I was thinking of you?? Love, Diane.” We had many letters of correspondence like this.

For 45 minutes on Wednesday, people got up and shared perhaps 1 story they had about Diane. Or just stories in general. I didn’t realize we were going to do this so I was ill-prepared. For most people, they had people laughing. After 4 days of rain and flooding, Wednesday was 70 degrees and beautiful; the next day would usher in below freezing temperatures. If you were going to have to say goodbye to a treasured loved one, Wednesday was the best day to do it.

Diane’s niece Brandy did not recognize me until I said Patrick on Diane’s Facebook page, and then knew immediately who I was. Of course! That is why I am PBMom. I’m Patrick Bowen’s mom. (People always think it is Peanut Butter Mom).  But we immediately recognized each other when I entered the funeral home.

The entire drive home, I thought about my own inevitable death, what people might take the time to actually come to a service, what would be said about me. After Jeff returned home, I sobbed in his arms, saying that I felt like I had failed in this life because I did not become what I had set out to be. Some things I let go of by choice; some things because there was no choice.

A fan rendering of a concert performance.

He did not understand what I was saying. He said he spent his whole life caring too much about what other people thought of him that he could care less what people thought of him when he died. And I sat there not understanding how you could NOT care. Isn’t that what our purpose here is? Aren’t we supposed to make the world better while we are here (and I’m not talking about political differences, but the benefit of humanity in the interest of humanity, like elimination of hunger, poverty, homelessness, illness, etc., not the ideologies of how to achieve that)? Aren’t we supposed to want to be the next Bill Gates or Steve Jobs or Louis Pasteur or Marie Curie? With our blood line ending with Patrick, and unless autism is cured, he is unlikely to become a father since he is unable to take care of himself, we have no one to remember the stories of us to pass down to future generations so we have to find other ways.

Hamman Hall, Rice University, 1986-1987? during my "steroid" days that gave me Cushing's disease.

I know what Patrick’s purpose in this life is. He has changed the hearts of so many. He has inspired at least 2 young people to want to be teachers. He was the reason why I started the first special needs ministry ever in The Woodlands in 1998-2005 at St. Anthony of Padua and because of that ministry and the people who came forward to help, so many people who needed help were helped. I often felt like I was being Patrick’s conduit but also a conduit of hooking up those people who needed help with those people who could help.

The next day, Brandy posted on my Facebook page that she was going through Diane’s things and found a picture of Patrick and a picture of Jeff and me. I misread the note thinking it was a picture of all three of us in the same picture, something that rarely occurs. She responded: “It was a picture of your son when he was younger. It looked like he was playing in the yard and then there was a separate picture of you and your husband that she had beside the picture of Patrick. I knew immediately who it was but, to make sure I flipped it over because she always wrote who was in the picture on the back and the age of the kids or the year that it was taken. She had it in her family album. It was in amongst pictures of her great nieces and nephews. 🙂 “I honestly felt Patrick had been invited to Jesus’ table for dinner because I knew how she felt about her nieces and nephews. I responded: “I knew Patrick was special to her, but I never knew that. And knowing the immense love and pride she had for all of you, that she loved him so much to place him among you all. Wow. I miss her SO much. Thank you for telling me that. My love and thoughts are with you all today. It must be so difficult going through her things.”

And I burst into tears.

Is being Patrick’s conduit, being known as PBMom, such a bad thing? No, it’s not. But I would rather be the one who figures out the puzzle that is autism and/or cures it so not one more family has to go through this. Or perhaps stumbles upon the fountain of youth where I can become immortal and go back and do all the things I originally planned on doing.

Patrick-- The PB in the PBMom

What do you hope people will say about you when you pass beyond your earthly bonds?





Join Team Patrick!

14 11 2011

I knew it was a long time since I’ve posted, but I had no idea it’s been almost 2 months. After Halloween is over, things seem to go into high gear, don’t they? Unexpected illnesses throw the whole schedule off. Tonight I’m starting our annual Christmas letter because I have about 200 cards to send out via regular mail not to mention the ones I send electronically. I just opened the mail I’ve been neglecting for a month. I have no time to even start a game of Skyrim. The Fringe fall finale is this Friday (what????) Its nuts! I was supposed to have attended Wizard World in Austin today for a day trip with my husband to visit Alaina Huffman and Julia Benson of Stargate Universe, but the flu decided to pay us a visit on Monday night to Tuesday morning and then Patrick proceeded to get sick. I haven’t read Joe Mallozzi’s blog in over a week, something I make sure to attend to every day. I also need to work, help Patrick’s school, and put up at least a Christmas tree.

I did accomplish quite a bit today considering I’ve been out of it for about a week. One of those items includes a fundraiser campaign for my son’s not-for-profit autism school, Including Kids. I know that budgets are tight and dollars are precious, but autism waits for no one. I would like to invite you to read our story, about this wonderful school and the difference you can make with even a small donation (even $5.00 helps).

My family thanks you for the support you have always shown us. I don’t know how we would have gotten this far without the financial, emotional and spiritual support of friends, family and even strangers.  If you feel like you might be able to contribute to this wonderful school, please follow this link:

http://www.firstgiving.com/fundraiser/hildabowen/annual-campaign-2011

Thanks for joining Team Patrick. Although I set the goal at the level that was requested by the school of each of the parents, I would truly like to exceed the amount. The amount is tax-deductible.

Blessings to all.

 

 





American Idol Finale — Day Two, Part A

30 05 2011

I woke up initially at 4:00 a.m. on Wednesday (my body was on Houston time still) but did go back to sleep until 7:15 when I decided to get up and go for a walk to a local Walgreens for supplies (about a half-mile away) to make my sign for James for the American Idol finale. There were not many people out in the morning yet. The temperature was cool and the sky was cloudless. I enjoyed my stroll through downtown LA.

Walkway

Walkway between the hotel that led to Nokia

Sunny day in LA

View from my hotel before my walk

Upon arriving back at the hotel, my friend had already showered. Not to delay breakfast any longer, I decided to just go to breakfast as I was and would shower after we got back.

We went to look for any restaurants open for breakfast other than Starbucks and were surprised at the work that had progressed already on laying out the red carpet for that night’s show at Nokia.

Nokia

Nokia Theater the morning of Idol finale

Red carpet being laid

Red carpet being laid outside of The Nokia Theater

The Farm of Beverly Hills was open. Roberto was our server. I ordered a bowl of fruit and a side order of turkey sausage. Glicel had eggs and the usual accompaniments. I did not want to eat too much as we were going to be meeting my brother-in-law, Peter, for lunch at noon. Just a few bites of my food satisfied the hunger quickly.

Menu

Menu at The Farm of Beverly Hills

Glicel

Glicel being a good sport with all the pictures.

We walked back to the hotel, noting even more progress on the event.

Walkway back to hotel

Walkway back to the hotel.

Progress on the red carpet

Progress on the red carpet

After returning to the hotel, I took a shower. Since Glicel is the creative one, I put her to work on the sign. She did a terrific job.

Signs1

Glicel getting to work on the sign.

Sign2

The final product; in retrospect, black was a bad choice.

Sign3

The second part of the sign.

Having gotten 2 hours of sleep, my butt was dragging and I remember at some point we went down to the lobby’s gift shop and I got some caffeine pills and made a new friend.

Leaving the signs to dry, we walked over to Rock’N Fish to meet my brother-in-law. A fellow Fox VIP person, Phillip Fritts, asked me to take a picture outside the Nokia with a link to his website.

Phillip

Click on this to go to Phillip's website

I saw the doors to the Nokia were open, and I peeked in there. The attendant said I was not allowed in. Since we were not allowed to bring cameras in later, I asked if I could just run in (with her watching me), take a picture of inside, and then come back out. She told me I could take a picture from the door. Nice compromise.

InsideNokia

Inside the Nokia Theater. Ironically, our seats were going to be in LOGE

As we continued to make our way to the restaurant, we saw people taking pictures in front of an American Idol sign and we decided to do the same.

AI sign

This IS American Idol.

We finally arrived at Rock’N Fish. Peter was already waiting at a lovely outside table and had ordered calamari as an appetizer. He looked great. Since this was an adventure, I decided to try the calamari. It was not what I was expecting (a good thing), but I would likely not order it on my own in the future. I wanted to make sure I had room for the crab cake! We chatted about family and work. As our meal progressed, so did the crowds.

Peter

My brother-in-law, Peter.

We took a stroll over to The Staples Center, across the street from Nokia, and got to see a different perspective of the red carpet area being laid out.

Nokia

Across from Nokia, where the stars would arrive.

We also took some pictures in front of Staples. Peter showed me where we would be going to pick up our tickets for tonight’s show about an hour later, and it looked pretty easy to access. We turned around and walked back towards the hotel, noting a Grammy museum on the way that I wished we had had the time to go visit.

MagicJohnson

Magic Johnson at Staples Center

Grammy

One of hundreds of Grammys on the sidewalk.

At the hotel, we went to the business center where I posted on Facebook and Twitter. It was then I found out who was in the lobby the previous night (the ones I just missed). Her daughter was making a sign for the show as well. Then, it was time to freshen up our makeup and put on our outfits. We needed to be at the tent at 3:00 to meet with people from the Fox VIP program, to pick up our tickets and take some pictures. Our instructions said to leave cameras and cell phones at the hotel (if we took them to Nokia, we would have to check them in and getting those after the show would take awhile). I had dinner plans with a friend after the show, so I needed to have quicker access to my cell phone.

When we exited the backside of the hotel, there were signs that said Fox and press with an arrow pointing to the right, which was logically the right way to go. I was surprised how tight everything had gotten in the short time we were gone. When we got to the corner where we would have turned left, it was blocked off completely and we were told to go through the garage. The arrows for Fox and press pointed to an area where there was an American Idol sign, but they had no idea what I was talking about or the names I gave them who worked for Fox. They suggested I walk back past the hotel to the area where the tents were (the area where I had my picture taken before Rock’N Fish). I did not think this was correct, but it was always possible the location was changed. As we are walking back, I passed a previous American Idol contestant walking briskly in the opposite direction, but my mind went blank on his name (24 hours later I remembered it was Kevin Covais). You could hear in the background the sounds of screams and applause as stars made their way onto the red carpet.

Right at the Nokia, but prior to the tent, we got stopped and were informed that we could not get in without a ticket. I told them the story, showed them my Fox VIP badge with my name on it, and that I needed to get to THAT tent to GET my tickets. They were kind enough to let me pass.

Once at that tent, the man did not know what I was talking about. Another man came over and told us where we needed to go (where my brother-in-law Peter showed us earlier). I explained that it was basically cut off to us and asked him to please tell us how to get there as I was from out of town and was not familiar with the area. He told us to cut through in front of Nokia and that would get us on the street and to hang a right. As we approached that area, we were stopped again. Jorge said he had never seen my badge. I told him that was because I was the only one at the entire event that had one and explained what the program was, that I won a contest, needed to get my tickets, and that man over at the tent told us to cut through here to get to that street beyond the theater to get to the Fox tent to get the tickets. If this did not work, I was going to have to go back to the hotel, up to my room and call the contact person to let them know of my difficulties. A few minutes of pleading eventually persuaded him, and I promised him he could watch us as we stayed on the outside, going nowhere near the theater.

Finally seeing the unobstructed path to the tent, I felt relief, but also a sense of embarrassment at being so late. I should have planned for potential obstacles.

After meeting Scott, Jessica came over to say hello. After talking to these people for a long time, it was great to finally meet them in person. We would be sitting with them and I let out a little yelp of happiness that made them chuckle. They were my rock stars at this event. It would give me time to talk with them more and get to know them. Scott refused to come take pictures at first with us, but had a change of heart, which made my heart very happy. I don’t have these pictures yet, but hopefully will post them when I get them. It was now about 3:45 p.m. and we entered the Nokia Theater for the big event that started at 5 p.m.

Next up–The American Idol finale show (yes, it deserves its own entry).





American Idol Finale Trip — Day One

28 05 2011

It was finally the morning of the day we were to leave for the American Idol finale. I had things to do, however. Before crashing at 2:00 a.m., I was about half-packed. It turned out to be a wise choice. I got up at 6:00, 45 minutes before the alarm was set, but the excitement and adrenaline had started to churn. I got up and took some extra time to print off some items I was going to need for my sign for James and to see if I could locate a heart that had the symbolic puzzle-pieces within from the internet.

At 6:45, attention turned to getting Patrick up and ready for school, a process that normally takes 1-1/2 hours each morning. Although 15 years old, because of his autism, he still needs assistance with aspects of his routine, like making his oatmeal for breakfast. Although he can pour in the milk, I still need to measure out the milk. He also has not been able to give himself a bath or shower, something about which I need to have a consult with his school. At 8:10, we left for the 45-minute drive to school (one-way).

I was worried about Patrick. On Monday, he developed these strange tics, the likes of which I had never seen before. They had calmed down a bit on Tuesday, but there were still evident. Someone on Twitter asked me if I was going to cancel my trip and I said, “Hell no.” If the tics were still there when I got back, I’d make an appointment for him the following week to go to the pediatrician.

I have gone away from Patrick many times in the past. I do not miss him while I am gone, most especially on short trips. Maybe it is more appropriate to say I miss him, his smile, his laugh, but I do not miss the caregiving. When I finally do find time to get away every couple of years, it is because I’m desperate for respite. Saying goodbye to him that morning, however, I had to hold back my tears and I got all choked up because I was worried about him and his tics.

On the trip home, I stopped at the bank and CVS. After getting home, I had to still call the medical supply company to place an order (because I knew Jeff would forget as it is normally my responsibility), and I had to contact the physical therapist and occupational therapist about an upcoming evaluation we were pursuing. There would be a long Memorial weekend after I got back and I know some places would close on Friday to extend that weekend. I also had to call TSA to ask them about some of my medications and their quart-bag rules. I had not traveled since the adoption of the quart-bag rule. I take protein injections before I eat twice a day so I needed to know the procedure for the needles going through security. I was a little anxious about the pat-down procedure because of my post-traumatic stress disorder resulting from my assault back in 1988. I made sure I was wearing waterproof mascara so that if this did happen and I was crying hysterically about it, I would not have raccoon eyes.

The time on the clock had me worried that I would have trouble being done on time. If I have learned anything with my time with our local Fox 26 Houston station, you should always be camera-ready. My friend was going to pick me up since she lived further back in The Woodlands and was anticipated to get here at 12:15. I was done at noon, which was quite impressive considering. The usual anxiety of going away on a trip was not here this time. The only missing element to this trip was my husband, Jeff. I always thought it was his fault.

When my friend was not here at 12:15, I was not worried. When 12:30 passed and she had not called yet, I was getting a little worried. I purposefully round-up my numbers when I’m calculating when we need to leave to allow for such possibilities. I decided if she was not here by 12:45, I would call her.

I left a note on our kitchen bulletin board to my family that I loved them and would miss them and left my husband a honey-do list that included picking up thyroid medication for the dog.

My friend, Glicel, pulled up sometime between 12:30-12:45. Her son, John, was kind enough to take a picture of us to begin the chronicle of our journey. We were off!

Me and Glicel getting ready to leave my house

Me and Glicel getting ready to leave my house

Glicel had gotten in touch with her cousin in Los Angeles who was going to pick us up from LAX and take us over to her house for dinner and maybe some sightseeing. I have known Glicel for 19 years; our children have grown up together. Of all the people in Texas who know me, she knows me the best. I took a deep breath and said, “You remember about my problems with smoking, right? She does not smoke?” Glicel didn’t seem to think so, but she had not seen her cousin in more than 20 years. I needed to be sure not only did she not smoke, that no one has smoked in her car, no one smokes at her house, etc., and proceeded to go into my travel experiences when these things have happened. Glicel would call her from Phoenix to find out and we decided if anything was even in question, Glicel would go visit with her cousin, and I would just go to the hotel and relax. I was glad I was with a really good friend at this point who understood.

Terminal A at George W. Bush Airport (previously known as Intercontinental Airport, thus the IAH designation) is the least traveled of all the terminals. The night before I joked with Glicel that I checked the weather and unless there was a mechanical problem with the plane (which fed into her fears), it looked like there should be no delays. I need to stop opening my mouth and saying words like this to the universe.

We got through security pretty quickly and without any problem whatsoever. Big sigh of relief. We arrived at the gate and the plane was to leave at 3:00 to Phoenix and would fly onto Sacramento, with the gate door being closed at 2:50. I took a call from school to let me know that the school had gotten tickets again to an Astros’ game (funny enough it was Astros versus the Dodgers) and if I thought Patrick could go. I called Jeff to make sure he filled out the permission slip to send it back and that it would allow him to stay at work a little longer that day.

When the plane was not boarding at 2:20, I knew something odd was up. Eventually they made the announcement that the plane would be delayed by an hour and anyone having to make a connection needed to step forward. We did. There were 3 lines, but they were not moving. The man holding up our line was at the desk for a half-hour. People were getting very agitated after awhile because they did not have enough help and if the plane was going to be loading up at 4:00, everyone making a connecting flight could not be serviced. We had lovely conversation with several people around us, keeping our spirits high. Even if this got us into Los Angeles late, the finale would not be until the next day so we were okay.

When it was finally our turn with the airline personnel, we asked what was wrong. She said there was a problem with the emergency slide they were trying to fix. Glicel seemed nervous to even get on a plane that had a mechanical problem, but she was okay. The ticket agent said 1) if this plane was fixed before 6:00 p.m., we would be on this original flight, just late or 2) if this plane was cancelled, they would get us on the 6:00 p.m. flight to Phoenix. Either way, we would not make our connecting flight at Phoenix to LA. This is when I wish I had internet access or a Smartphone. For some odd reason she put us on a Delta flight leaving at 8:05 p.m. Phoenix time (10:05 p.m. Houston time). Remember this because it is important information for later in my story. We thanked her for her effort and decided to go grab a little bite to eat.

Waiting in line for 2 hours to be rerouted

Waiting in line for 2 hours to be rerouted

That morning, I had a light breakfast — pistachios and a banana. I chose to eat at McDonald’s, a snack- sized fruit and walnut salad. There were not too many things appealing to a very strict diet at those fast-food stands. Glicel called her cousin to let her know it looked like our plane would not be coming in until 10:30 Los Angeles time. Her cousin said that was too late for her. In the meantime, I called LA Market (Gordon Ramsay’s restaurant) and cancelled our dinner reservations and proceeded to call the hotel to make sure they knew we were still coming and to not give our room away, another precaution and lesson learned from a previous trip in Seattle (but that time, despite telling 5-star hotel we were coming in at midnight and had a credit card to reserve the room, they gave away our room and told us they could send us to a hotel in the suburbs because all the hotels in downtown Seattle were booked).

Sometime between 5:00-5:30, the plane finally boarded. My friend took the middle seat and I took the aisle seat. We snapped a picture to show how excited we were to leave.

On the plane

We've finally boarded!

In Phoenix we got off the plane (maybe it was about 6:30 Phoenix time) and looked at the board to find out what gate Delta’s flight was leaving, but could not find it. However, I saw that the airline on which we were traveling had a flight leaving at 8:00 for LAX and I did not understand why we were not booked on that plane. I shrugged my shoulders and said, “That one must have been full.” I also saw that one was leaving at 6:50, but I figured she did not book us on that because she was afraid we would miss that, especially if we had to leave on the 6:00 Houston flight.

Phoenix from the air

Beautiful view headed into Phoenix

Landing in Phoenix

Phoenix is a beautiful city

I suggested we walk some more and maybe the boards further up would tell us about where to find Delta. In Houston, they have all the flights leaving on the board and what airline and terminal and gate. We stopped at See’s Candy to ask the man there where the heck was Delta. He informed us we would have to leave this terminal, take a bus, and then go through security again. That did not sit well with me. I said, “Seriously? You guys do not have a walkway or a tram that you can just hop that will take you to any of the terminals like we do in Houston? Nope. I then asked a security person that who confirmed the same thing. But then I got to thinking –wait a minute–the airline personnel did not give us boarding passes for Delta so how in the world would we get through security. We decided to go to another US Airways desk. They told us that before going through security, we would have to stand in line at the ticket counter to get our boarding passes. I asked why we could not go on their 8:00 flight. We were told it was full, but…… and they told us to quickly quickly go the customer assistance area two spots down from them. We gave the man the abbreviated version of the story. He said yes the 8:00 flight was full, but the flight FROM THE GATE WE JUST LEFT was going to LAX and why didn’t we stop at the ticket counter THERE to ask. He yelled for an electric cart to speed us away back to that gate (which was pretty far away). The guy had the cart on full throttle.

As we pulled up, there was no one at the ticket counter. The door was shut. I watched a minute later the ramp being pulled away.

By then I was livid. The lack of communication in this airline was astounding. Somewhere between the time we were re-routed on Delta and the time we boarded the plane in Houston, someone decided that the plane we actually were sitting on was no longer going to Sacramento, but rather decided it was going now to LAX. There was absolutely NO announcement on the plane of such a thing happening. We should have never gotten off that flight. I was completely in the dark that there were other flights on the same airline going to LAX until I reached the terminal in Phoenix. In the meantime, my friend was in line at another ticket counter close to this gate and shared the story. Apparently the 8 p.m. flight on this airline was NOT full. We just could not sit together. Book ’em Danno. We did not care we could not sit together. Why did at least 4 other ticket agents not tell us, “The flight is pretty full and I can get you on there, but you just cannot sit together.” I traveled a great deal in my lifetime and when traveling with others, this was always said to us and then the choice could be ours. This sure beats having to leave the terminal, go on a bus, go to another terminal, wait in line at the ticket counter, get a boarding pass, go back through security, etc.

The plane leaves late, but just by another 20 minutes but we were FINALLY in Los Angeles and the weather outside felt beautiful. Since LAX is usually bustling with celebrities at all hours of the day and night going to and fro, I kept a watchful eye out. We decided to take a cab instead of Supershuttle because I did not want to spend another few hours driving around LA taking others to their hotels.

In LA

Waiting for our cab in Los Angeles

As we get in the cab, the man says, “I prefer cash.” I said, “Don’t we all. Do you take American Express?” He again said he preferred cash and I lied and said, “I don’t have any cash, and if that was a problem, he needed to let us out right now.” (My brother-in-law the next day told me he could have gotten into a lot of trouble because there is a city law that they cannot refuse a fare at the airport). Whether he then had an attitude or this was his usual behavior, he proceeded to drive like a maniac. I thought I was going to have to grab Glicel’s hand. It felt like I was back in New York City. We were missing other vehicles by inches.

We were noting at how many people there were at this late hour and all the different names of airlines, some of which we completely foreign to us, trying to distract us from the driving of this cabbie.

Midway to the hotel, I just got a really bad vibe about this cab driver. I leaned over to my friend and told her I was not going to use the gift card for the cab fare but my own Mastercard because I just had a funny feeling. My sixth sense is rarely off. It was the same feeling I got that I was going to win this American Idol finale contest.

At this late hour, the bright side is there was little traffic and once we got clear of the traffic at the airport, we got to the hotel rather quickly.

As we were checking out with the cab driver, I noticed he swiped my card twice, claiming the first one you could not see the numbers. I’m glad I did this. If any weird charges start showing up on my credit card, I’ll know EXACTLY the source. I don’t believe I would have the same protections with my gift card.

The hotel was beautiful. They had us in room 963 (which was oddly the month and year of my friend’s birth). We saw a commotion over in the lounge (it was about 11:30 now) and decided we would put our bags upstairs and then go on a search for something light to eat. Our room was so beautiful. Here are some pictures:

Our hotel room

The bed was VERY comfortable.

The bathroom

The bathroom was very modern

Another viewpoint

Our room from the door's point of view

Our view looked into downtown LA versus the Nokia, which turned out to be a good thing because there were flashing lights and spotlights that we would have to contend with being on the opposite side of the floor while trying to sleep. The bathroom door was very interesting. After playing a game of shadow puppets, we decided that if one of us was using the toilet, the other one would not go near the door (not a pretty picture! LOL).

Transparent bathroom door

The transparent-like bathroom door

Shadow puppets

Playing shadow puppets on the bathroom door

The lounge area had thinned out. The next day, from some people in the business center, I found out that Cat Deeley, the host of So You Think You Can Dance, was there and that James Durbin was there for some part of the night. There were also rumored other people but this particular individual did not see them so considered that to be rumor. I was bummed when I found out. The restaurants were closed, so we headed back to the hotel. It looked like maybe room service was our only option. However, we were told the lounge “The Mixing Room” over in the corner had a small menu from which you could order so we headed in there. We ordered a margherita pizza (personal sized). My friend ordered a glass of wine; I ordered water. I ran back up to the room to take my medicine. The pizza was taking a long time, and the waitress brought us over some popcorn because she knew how starving we were. Once it did arrive, the pizza was delicious. It came from Gordon Ramsay’s restaurant apparently even though it wasn’t officially open (I guess they do room service in the evening). When we got the bill, they had apparently compensated the price of the pizza because of the length of the delay, which I thought was terribly thoughtful but unnecessary, but since it was our first break of the night, I welcomed it with open arms.

Skewed picture

This picture came out weird looking, but I thought it was very interesting.

Lounge

This is the area where the celebrities were at earlier in the evening.

The Mixing Room

The Mixing Room

We headed up to the room, and I ran down to the business center to use the computer for a few minutes, then back to the room where we snuggled in and drifted off somewhere in the 2:00-2:30 range (which my body felt like 4:00-4:30 range). The next day held an enormously busy schedule. We set the alarm for 10 o’clock in case either of us slept solidly so that we would have enough time to shower and meet my brother-in-law for lunch at noon. I had no problem falling asleep that night.

(To be continued — Day 2).





Adam Lambert Forms Neural Connections

18 09 2010

I was a huge American Idol fan, doing blogs on Fox 26 Houston after each show, predicting during their first auditions that Adam Lambert and Danny Gokey would make it all the way to the final 5 in the competition.  With American Idol, one does not have to win in order to be successful; alternatively winning does not guarantee success.  Adam had left his mark on Season 8 and Idol could never measure up again.  The Idol tour did not include a Houston-area visit, and I could not get to Dallas because of Patrick. 

Anyone who has been following my blogs since 2007 there also knows of my intense battles with my son’s school district.  We decided to pull him out of the public school and put him in a costly private setting with an anticipated costly legal battle ahead.  The day we made this decision was the day tickets went on sale for Adam’s Houston concert.  My husband and I agreed that this was a sacrifice we would gladly make for the sake of our son.  All our financial resources were being put into the private placement and the legal process against the district.  It was a difficult choice because there were so few opportunities in our life for fun, fun away from the daily struggles of raising a child with multiple disabilities.  Every day I would visit the site and say, “But I want to go.”  However, when Patrick was coming home having made leaps in his developmental process and a calming of his behaviors, I knew we made the right choice.  There was still this longing in my soul to go see Adam perform. 

I decided to put it out there to the universe. If I was meant to have these tickets, they would somehow get to me.  I put a note on Facebook that if anyone heard of any contests being run that next week, to please let me know, because I was feeling lucky. 

A friend, knowing that I had one of the worst years of my life, seeing how much progress Patrick was making in his new school and wanting to do something out of genuine love, decided to play fairy godmother.  She did not know too much about Adam, but she was impressed with his interview on Oprah.  She wanted us to take Patrick. 

“Take Patrick.”  That was something I would have never considered before, especially during the last year when his behaviors increased because staff was not trained properly in the school district.  In 15 days at this private facility, Patrick had dramatically changed.  We really loved this idea.  The school was excited as well.

The day of the concert, I called Hobby Center to see what their procedures were for carrying backpacks were (Patrick’s seizure medication in there), and if I needed a doctor’s note.  I also asked about photography policies.  I shared with Cori Stevenson at Hobby Center that I was 50% excited and 50% petrified because I just did not know what to expect with him and that we were planning for every contingency.  She gave us some information that we previously did not know:  Alison Iraheta was opening for Adam and would be on for 35 minutes starting at 8:00.  Then there would a 30-minute intermission.  Adam was scheduled to sing for about 75 minutes starting at about 9:05.  Based on that information, we planned to show up at 8:20 which would allow Patrick to hear Alison’s music from the muffled sounds of the lobby area so I could see how he might react. 

My friend came to the door with the tickets about 10 minutes later and I tried to hold it together, but when I saw she also included money for us to buy some mementos, I just lost it and cried that we had just had a bad year and ever since Patrick has been going to this school all these wonderful things have been happening in our lives.  

When we arrived at Hobby Center at 8:20, Cori came up to the door as we were getting our tickets out.  She informed me Karolina would be available to help us.  She instructed us on where the EMT was located should there be a need.  Karolina would also check in on us throughout the night.  They worked like a well-oiled machine.  We got up to the gallery level and Karolina was there to greet us.  Patrick wiggled into her heart as he does so many.  He was rocking back and forth to the music coming from the hall, so we were hopeful. 

This is Karolina

As the people filed out to go to the restroom and buy concert merchandise, we walked in and sat down in our wonderful seats.  Patrick just took it all in. 

Patrick takes it all in.

He loved the Hobby Center’s ceiling of stars. 

The ceiling at Hobby Center

The noise gradually became louder and louder, which was perfect to acclimatize him to the sound.  The crowd was filled with such wonderful diversity.  Love was palpable in the air, like the warmth and beauty of the sunrise. 

"Not sure about the screaming fans."

Everyone was standing up, so Patrick did, too.  Although he did have his hands on his ears, he was smiling, laughing and rocking back and forth (dancing!).  The roar of the crowd when Adam took the stage at this sold-out show was deafening.  Patrick was appropriately mimicking the crowd.  There were no bad seats at Hobby Center; our seats I felt were perfect for us. 

Adam appears onstage.

Adam Lambert in Houston

We checked him often to make sure he wasn’t having a seizure, especially during some of the laser lighting, which happened to be some of Patrick’s favorite parts. 

Patrick's favorite: The laser lights.

It wasn’t until Adam sang “Aftermath” that it all hit me and I found myself crying.  For 70 minutes, Patrick blended in with the crowd.  No one stared at him for being different.  No one even glanced his way.  I looked over at him and thought, “Wow, this is what it feels like to have a neurotypical kid!”  For those of you who have followed me over the years, you know that my first child, Matthew, died, so Patrick is my only living child.  I did not know what life without autism was until then.  It was one of life’s perfect moments and one I will always treasure.  It makes the difficult times with autism easier to manage.  It was such a gift. 

“Anytime anybody pulls you down, anytime anybody says you’re not allowed, just remember you are not alone, in the aftermath.” 

It summed up my first half of the year with the difficulties with the school district.  Although I sometimes felt alone on this journey, in the aftermath, I rediscovered that support.  

“Gonna tell you, you’ll be alright, in the aftermath.” 

And he was.  He was thriving, accomplishing more in 15 days there than 6 years in the school district. And we were having this perfect moment. 

He was very quiet on the drive home.  However, while rounding the corner of the street that led to our home, Patrick yelled out, “I’m home.”  I did some double-checking with Jeff that he heard that, too.  As we pulled in the driveway, he said it yet again.  One of the miracles that has occurred with Patrick is that he has become more verbal.  They send lists home every day of things they hear him say and our list at home is increasing as well. 

The week of Adam’s concert, Patrick was having an adjustment period as we were weaning him off his behavior medications.  He also had been dealing with a lot of change–the previous week, his father had gone away for a week on a family emergency, and his teacher was off on her honeymoon.  He was still doing well, but there was some lack of focus issues occurring. 

He had a fantastic day the day after the concert.  These were some of the comments that came home in his home log:

“He came in with a mission! 🙂  He charged straight to his cubby and even prompted ME to get the home log so he could put his backpack away.”  During his yoga, he demonstrated peer imitation of some movements.  He had much lower vocal stereotypy in the morning.  She also wrote, “Patrick was saying “hi” (vocally) to peers as they come out the jumper and were going back in.  Also dancing to music with his hands down.”  For the first time, he almost went into the jumper.  He motioned for his teacher to go first, but she insisted he had to go first and then she would follow.  He wasn’t quite ready to do that, but he was so close. 

I wrote back:  “Adam Lambert forms new brain connections.  I just LOVE this idea.”  We joked that maybe it should be a required field trip for all the kids next time he is in town if the concert had this kind of effect.  Knowing Adam, he would embrace having a bunch of kids with autism come visit him.  His message is about love, about being true to yourself, not being ashamed of it.  During the concert he talked about everything in your life needing to be connected by the love in your heart.  It was an all-inclusive love-fest that I highly recommend to everyone. 

I want to send my thanks to my friend for her amazing generosity, to Cori Stevenson and Karolina at Hobby Center for helping to make my son’s first rock concert a roaring success, to Adam’s fans who did not even know the magic they were helping to weave that night, and to the Adam Lambert fans who have enjoyed hearing about this tale of love.